My 2019 Lessons

2019 for me was a gigantic lesson.

I learned to keep my life in 18 Kg in a suitcase and a backpack.

I learned to accept having failed, and this year I did it 2 times within 3 months. And I never felt better.

I learned to travel constantly, and I understood that the best thing is to stand still, if you want to build something. In motion, images come out blurred. The more you move, the more the images are faded and not close to the original vision.

I learned that simplifying is extremely more difficult than complicating and adding. But I understood how to do it, now.

I learned that sometimes, to add you have to subtract, and to subtract you have to add. It is a zero-sum game.

I learned that zero-sum relationships are worth nothing: it is really worth maintaining only the positive-sum ones.

I understood that, at 26 years old, I am leaving the 20s and entering the 30s: but I have a partner next to me who doesn’t weigh it on me and who endures (and supports) my obsessions, frustrations and twisted thoughts.

I understood that if I want to build something for others, I must in the meantime build something for me. Otherwise I am not strong enough to build truly meaningful things.

I understood that people come and go, but it is our aptitude to know new ones that really makes the difference.

I understood that I am not alone. On the internet, in work, with my philosophy. I understood that I am not weird, I am just myself. And I fight to be so every day, despite the world screaming at me to follow the current.

I understood that it is useless to look at the way others do things: we are not able to do them in the same way, and if we try we are just making a big mistake.

I understood that if I set goals for myself, I am able to reach them: at the end of 2018, exactly a year ago, I had set myself 20 goals, some more ambitious, others less.

I reached 16.

One I didn’t reach, but I improved compared to last year. 2 goals I abandoned, it is useless to force yourself. And I created a new goal.

Fair enough.

If I hadn’t reached even one, it would have been a problem. And instead, seeing that out of 21 I reached 16, that is 75%, makes it easier for me to let go of those in which I didn’t commit too much. Counting also those in which I improved, 2019 for me was a positive year for 90% of the promises I made to myself 365 days ago.

Not bad, one would say.

Everything changed since I started measuring what I do, giving it a value. Everything came naturally afterwards. And I am a happier person, that’s all. The goals I set for myself will change, but my system will always remain the same, adapting to the changes in my person.

In these last 12 months I created an image of life in my head: I see myself on a chariot with two horses, in the middle of a race with chariots. Obviously, whoever arrives first wins.

There are those who fully trust their horses and let them run wildly towards the finish line, risking running into dangers that the horses cannot notice.

Then there are those who only trust themselves: they exercise so much control over their horses that eventually they slow down and the horses rebel.

And then there is another type, the one who understands that the strength of horses is to run very fast, but that to reach the goal with ease, there is need for small adjustments from time to time, a caress and a pat of encouragement. I believe that this last type always wins.

I want to be this type.

In 2019 I found the confirmations I was looking for in 2018, and I could not have hoped for better.

Happy 2020 to everyone!

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